Monday, January 31, 2011

Yet Another Sign

As I've said here before, I LOVE the little winks we sometimes get from those who have died. When I was writing the book and asking for input, stories about post-death communications were among my favorites. Some were incredibly specific and compelling, others were so contrived as to be embarrassing. But what's consistent is the comfort we feel when they happen to us. It's no mystery as to why I love them. I want to believe my parents can see what's happening in my life. I want to believe our connections are too strong to be broken by death.

Last week my son was selected to be part of his school's basketball homecoming. He and his escort were all dressed up, announced during halftime, you know the drill.

Well, the week before, I had scanned a few pictures of my dad and despite my extreme caution, one of them got lost. I looked all over. I called the drugstore where I scanned them, but wasn't satisfied they had searched properly. I went, (twice!), and checked the scanner trays myself and looked through the lost and found. I grilled every member of my family and scoured the car for the stray photo. No luck. I was mad at myself for losing it, and may have to find a new drugstore.

Back to homecoming. The day before the big game, my son called me from school to give me some final details and told me he found the picture of Grandpa! Apparently it fell out of his backpack as he was turning in the paper giving his escort's name, etc.

Was this just a coincidence? To anyone else, that would be the obvious conclusion. To me, though, I just don't see how it could have possibly gotten into my son's school papers. The fact it just happened to "fall out" during this exciting time for him seems a tad convenient. Still, I have to acknowledge my desire for it to be an "Atta boy!" from my dad. He loved David so much....

Thank you, Dad. Thanks for the wink. I miss you every day, and if I believe these signs are proof that you are still with me, well, where's the harm in that?


  1. Lovely post! I just stumbled across your blog and love what you have written. Thank you for sharing.

  2. Thank you. Look around, make yourself at home, and share as much or as little as you like. Glad you're here.

  3. Alicia, finally relocated your blog. Wonderful post. I too treasure the occasional "wink"! Bought your book and will be sharing it with my cousin. It is a wonderful resource you have created for the world.


  4. Hi Sam!

    Thank you.

    It was great talking to you and Kim and catching up. Congratulations on your Rotary governorship! What are we supposed to call you now? Do we bow? Curtsy? :)

  5. Dearest child, I just got your book this morning and finished it an hour ago..what a wonderful gift you have given the people in need..what a wonderful gift you are to all of us..Seeing the pictures of your dad made me cry..I miss him too..your Mom too..I found some fun pics of your family at Jens first birthday..will send them to you..we must visit via number is on my Facebook you.

  6. Thank you so much, Corky. It was just wonderful talking to you. It's always nice to hear stories about my parents. We had some good times, huh?



When someone dies, (other than attending the service), I do this for the family-