This longing is mentioned by most people I have interviewed. It can be where we get stuck in our grief, unable to move ahead with our lives. What if? Why? How? The unknown can be a roadblock like no other. Or is it the answer?
After all, the unknown includes everything in the first sentence, right? Take dreams, for instance. Psychic and author Sylvia Browne says, "The world of dreams opens up ways for us to release negative thoughts, to program positive ones, to reach loved ones who have passed and even to be precognitive." If this is true, then maybe our dreams of loved ones have actually been our loved ones reaching out to us. A comforting thought, if the dreams are loving. Not so much for the nightmares.
If you've read previous posts here then you can probably guess where I stand. Welcome comfort wherever you can find it. There's no wrong way to grieve. Your pain is unique, and so is your recovery.
How about you? Do you believe we can communicate with those who have passed? Have you experienced a dream so real or prophetic you are convinced it was more than a dream?
I truly do believe this. My husband has felt his parents "visit" in his dreams very vividly. It doesn't happen often, and they always seem fade back just as he goes to touch them. They are extremely powerful dreams and have a different feel than a regular dream.
ReplyDeleteYes. The morning my grandfather passed away I was sleeping on the floor of his living room. I dreamt that I looked up and my grandfather was being led out of his house by a tall, friendly man. My grandfather looked at me, smiled, and said, "It's OK." Since then I have had two dreams. In each dream my grandfather comes and sits on the edge of my bed and holds my hand. Once he told me, "Be brave. Just be brave." And another times he told me, "You will be OK." All 3 experiences have been very comforting. I do believe it was my grandfather and not "just a dream".
ReplyDeleteThat's incredible, Joslyne. How old were you when he died?
ReplyDeleteCam- powerful in what way?
Thank you both for sharing these!
About a year after my dad died (he was 46, I was 20) I had a very vivid dream that the whole family was at a party, outside at my aunt's (his sister) home. He came up to me, put his arm around me and told me, "Everything is okay, just go on."
ReplyDeleteI never told anyone about the dream until about five years later when I was sitting around the kitchen table with my aunt and somehow this type of subject came up. I started to describe the dream and well, basically before I could finish it...she did. She had dreamed almost the identical dream, down to the outside at her house part and the same message. Creepy or comforting? For me it was totally comforting. The dream itself was comforting but to know it was shared by someone else just sealed the deal. To me it doesn't matter if it was really him sending me a message or my own simple brain trying to find a way to make me come to terms with his death. Either way, I believe that God was in control of that...he chooses all kinds of way to heal us, so why not dreams? He talked to the prophets in dreams all the time, right? Whatever the cause, the effect was good.
About a year after my dad died (he was 46, I was 20) I had a very vivid dream that the whole family was at a party, outside at my aunt's (his sister) home. He came up to me, put his arm around me and told me, "Everything is okay, just go on."
ReplyDeleteI never told anyone about the dream until about five years later when I was sitting around the kitchen table with my aunt and somehow this type of subject came up. I started to describe the dream and well, basically before I could finish it...she did. She had dreamed almost the identical dream, down to the outside at her house part and the same message. Creepy or comforting? For me it was totally comforting. The dream itself was comforting but to know it was shared by someone else just sealed the deal. To me it doesn't matter if it was really him sending me a message or my own simple brain trying to find a way to make me come to terms with his death. Either way, I believe that God was in control of that...he chooses all kinds of way to heal us, so why not dreams? He talked to the prophets in dreams all the time, right? Whatever the cause, the effect was good.
Wow, that's incredible! I love the idea that even death can't break the bond between parent and child. As for your aunt getting the same message, well, talk about validation!
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